Trying to win the affections of a woman is both exhilarating and challenging. As guys, we never really know what a girl is looking for, so we make our best effort to win her over and hope things go our way. While every situation is different, there are some strategies that seem to be, at least to some degree, universally effective. That being said, getting a girl to like you is as much of an art as it is a science. You have to use your intuition, pay attention to her body language and go with the moment. There is no perfect recipe for winning a girl’s heart, so the following suggestions are just guidelines that will increase your chances of success.
There is, however, a guarantee that she will not like you if you pretend to be something you are not. For one, it is impossible to keep up such an act forever. Secondly, women are quite good at picking up on disingenuous behavior. The best way to go is to play the hand you have, win or lose. Yes, you may lose a few, but when you win it will be for the right reasons.
Think Out of the Box
There is nothing wrong with giving a girl flowers or taking her out for dinner and a movie. However, a more unique approach will often pay greater dividends. Try giving a girl something only you can give her. If you draw well, make a sketch of her and surprise her with it. Anyone can go buy roses, but only you can make a bouquet of the wild-flowers that grow in your yard. These are small gestures, but they can make a very big difference in how she sees you.
Easy on the Flattery
Women love to be complimented, but there is such a thing as overdoing it. If you are constantly offering compliments, each one will mean less, an eventually they will hold little if any meaning at all. Plus, flattery often comes off as disingenuous and manipulative. The occasional compliment will win you points, but make sure you mean it and that it was earned. Otherwise you are no better than the creepy guy at the bar who tells every woman who comes in how beautiful she is. It does not work for him, and it will not work for you.
The best way to get a girl to like you is to make sure the two of you have fun when you are together. Make her laugh, be spontaneous, and do not take yourself too seriously. Think of fun things you can do together and do your best to keep things interesting. You do not have to take her to the best restaurants or buy her expensive gifts to get her to like you. Just show her a good time and treat her with kindness, adoration and respect.